What a year it has been. I am a big believer in reviewing, reflecting, and making plans to improve, and this seems to be the time of year that lends itself to doing just this. One of the great blogs that I have come across in my blogging journey this year, Maxabella Loves, has come up with 10 great questions to ponder as the old year draws to a close. I really loved these thoughtful questions and decided to use them as a way to reflect on the year gone by and plan for 2015.
1. What word do you think best summed up 2014?
‘Transition’ would be the most apt word for our year. New job for the husband, a big move from Townsville to Perth, living a FIFO lifestyle, all four boys in school (youngest Kindy), first year not working at all (harder than you think), sold a house and bought a new house (actually lived in four different places this year), bought a new car and trying to sell an old car, and trying to work out what we need as a family to be happy.
2. What did you do for the first time this year?
I love to push myself to do things I have never done before, from the small things like driving home a different way, a new walking route, or playing in a different park, to the big things like living in a different state or competing in an event for the first time. So many firsts this year but the big ones for me for 2014 were:
- Moved to Perth
- Survived as a FIFO wife and mum
- Started a Blog
- Learnt to kayak
- Completed my very first Enduro Adventurethon
3. What is one thing that happened that will have lasting consequences?
My husband taking this job with Rio Tinto has been a game changer for our family. It has opened up experiences that we could never have imagined. As I announced on my Facebook page earlier this week our adventures are set to continue as we move to a small, remote, mining town of 800 people in the Pilbara region, Western Australia in February 2015. I am excited for the future and hopeful that this will bring some more happy times for our family.
4. Was there anything you wish you’d done differently? Why? How?
There is not much that I would have done differently. Maybe pushed harder for a residential posting a little earlier in the piece to avoid FIFO? In saying that we have learnt a lot from the experience. For me I have learnt how to be a lot more self reliant, I value my husband and family time that much more, and I realised that I missed working and will be looking for something as soon as I can.
5. Do you have a favourite moment from the year? What made it special?
I really have had a great year with many fantastic moments but my top 3 moments would be:
The two weeks with my mother when she helped us first move over to Perth were a pretty great way to start our time over here. It was exciting, new, and surprisingly relaxing. There were no expectations, no great plans, and aside from finding a house to rent and a school to enrol in, we had no deadlines and no one else to please but ourselves. We had fun. (Also great that I got to finish the year with a couple of weeks with my Mother-in-Law).
The perfect weekends when Rod was home and it just worked. The sun was shining, the kids were happy and healthy, we were just enjoying being together. Throw in a little outdoor adventure and happy days.
Kalbarri was another favourite. It was a beautiful place, so relaxed, we had the Grandies visiting, and it was just fantastic.
6. What lessons has 2014 taught you about yourself? About others?
The lesson I learnt in 2014 was that your ‘village’ is so important. It’s not just family, it’s friends, it’s co workers, it’s other mums at school, it’s teachers and coaches that impact you and the way your kids are raised. With the move I lost so many of my support networks and it wasn’t until I lost them that I realised how important they are. They help pick you up when you are down, help give you direction, empathise with children dramas, they are the place I can drop in and recharge, or where my kids can drop in and I can really recharge. So I have learnt to pick myself up and do the best I can. I found it hard to be ‘just’ a stay at home mum. There is no real yardstick for success as a parent. Am I failing if they aren’t always happy? If they aren’t getting straight A’s or doing well at sport? How do you measure success as a parent? Lucky this parenting caper is an ongoing process that I am still striving to improve at.
7. How will the lessons from this past year change the way you approach the new year?
The new year will definitely bring more family orientated activities based on the day to day stuff. More family fitness, more one on one child time, more balance.
8. What do you most want to do in 2015?
I really want to be working again this year. I also want to train for an event with my husband so look out for that in the new year. Also striving for better balance, not so much struggle during the week.
9. What do you most want to change about yourself? The world?
I have really felt like I was the Dictator with the kids this year and would like to not be so cranky with them. I want to enjoy them more and hopefully with the hubby back at home each night with the move to a residential posting this should be more achieveable. I am still working on my plan to conquer the world but would definitely like to be a part of something that has an impact on a bigger scale.
10. What one word do you hope will sum up what you hope to achieve in 2015?
Well that is my reflections on 2014. I would really like to thank everyone that has dropped in and followed along. It has been an absolute pleasure to share my journey over the last six months and hopefully as I learn more and try more different things the blog will continue to improve. Happy New Year Everyone!!